{"id":55526,"date":"2018-12-29t12:00:21","date_gmt":"2018-12-29t17:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/48e130086c.nxcli.net\/?p=55526"},"modified":"2019-01-01t18:12:03","modified_gmt":"2019-01-01t23:12:03","slug":"focus-on-changing-yourself-not-everyone-else","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"\/\/www.g005e.com\/2018\/12\/29\/focus-on-changing-yourself-not-everyone-else\/","title":{"rendered":"focus on changing yourself (not everyone else)"},"content":{"rendered":"

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by bill reeb<\/i><\/p>\n

\u201cfocus on changing you\u201d is an important technique to embrace. for your life to change in a meaningful way, it is about you changing \u2013 not anyone else.<\/p>\n

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while this sounds clich\u00e9, it is absolutely true. as a consultant, i work with organizations helping them with everything from improving operating processes to succession. because every project i am involved in requires me to deal with a number of different personalities, if i want the client to achieve a successful outcome, it becomes critical for our team members to understand the following premise:<\/p>\n

change occurs when you<\/strong> change!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n


\nas you know from my previous discussions, i believe change occurs as soon as you start thinking differently. what often gets in our way are feelings of inequity. for example, i will hear comments like, \u201cwhy should i change when i already do more than everyone else?\u201d or \u201ci will be happy to change once i see others starting to commit the same level of effort i am already delivering.\u201d<\/p>\n

the problem is that this thinking is flawed. part of the disconnect with expecting others to \u201cwork at your level\u201d before you<\/strong> change is that the odds are high that your perceptions are wrong, both of yourself and of others. the gap between your effort or contribution and that of others is rarely as wide as you imagine.<\/p>\n

quite frankly, it may be the reverse because you might actually be taking far more than you are giving. how could this be? the reason is very logical:<\/p>\n

we give ourselves credit for everything we think, say and do. we only give others credit for what we see them do.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

this is a really important concept to embrace and one most people resist, so i am going to take you through a simple scenario. let\u2019s say you had a project that had the deadline of last friday. because you were not done by 5:30 p.m. (your normal quitting time on friday), you decided to stay late (until 9 p.m.) and get it done before you left.<\/p>\n

after leaving that evening, frustrated by this last-minute requirement, you spent your drive time home and some time that evening pondering how this intense scrambling could have been avoided. over the weekend, you found yourself continuing this mental dialogue and were excited when you came up with a few ideas worth trying to minimize the chances of this situation repeating itself.<\/p>\n

on a different track, earlier that same week, you noticed a co-worker who was clearly struggling to meet a different project deadline. after surmising this, you extended an offer to stay and help if necessary. your\u00a0 co-worker thanked you for your generosity, but declined the need for assistance. so, in this simplistic case study, you are likely to give yourself credit for the following:<\/p>\n