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guilt is one of the most damaging emotional obstacles you throw in front of yourself.

by bill reeb, cpa

when i talk about guilt and duty, the examples i share can sound similar. however, the distinction to me is that duty is what you feel before you make a decision or take an action, and guilt is what you feel afterward.

more: duty: a tough hurdle to overcome | fear stifles you in every way | change the way you think | let go to get unstuck | investing in loss | you might be your biggest obstacle | what to stop may be more important than what to do | stop wishing your life away | don’t let inertia determine your direction
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for example, i feel a sense of duty to protect my daughter, and i would feel guilty if she were hurt badly because i would imagine everything i should have done to better protect her (even if what i imagined would be unreasonable to expect).
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are you right where you are supposed to be?

by bill reeb

a big step in the right direction to regain momentum occurs when you start cutting yourself some slack.

more: you are right where you are supposed to be | change the way you think | let go to get unstuck | investing in loss | you might be your biggest obstacle | what to stop may be more important than what to do
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after you decide that you are going to make a change in your plans or objectives, it is common human behavior to beat yourself up for not arriving at that same decision earlier. on top of that, i often see people shining an intense spotlight on themselves, scrutinizing every step in their progress as they start down any new path.
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you could be further on x, but then y would have suffered.

by bill reeb

at this point in the process, you have already identified a desire (including a plan, tactics, timeline and expectations) and have been following that plan doing the work. however, for you to be at this juncture, you had to kick out of the try (work)-evaluate loop because you were feeling unsuccessful or unhappy about your progress or priorities. when this negative evaluation occurs, you are either starting to get stuck or you are already stuck.

more: change the way you think | 3 ‘letting go’ actions to help you get unstuck | get better, work better, right now | constantly build on the basics | from martial arts to business: 5 steps of evolution | expect and embrace failure anytime you do new work | determining your desires should be an active process
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as i have observed in my experience with clients, martial arts students and my own life, identifying a solution to get you back on track occurs by working through one of two paths. the first path is for you to consider “what you are thinking,” with the second path reflecting on “what you are doing.” as you consider the variety of techniques focused on what to let go of so that you can start regaining momentum, your action choices will come down to replanning, reprioritizing or reaffirming your desire, or some combination of these. with this in mind, let’s consider some techniques to help you reassess what you are thinking.
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the 4th of 4 steps.

by bill reeb

the realization that all we have to do to be different is to allow ourselves to think differently is very powerful. the great news is … it’s often not that hard, and sometimes it is downright easy, once you focus your attention on the right places.

more: 3 ‘letting go’ actions to help you get unstuck | become your mind’s lead programmer | stay in the present | how ‘take what’s given’ works in business | expect and embrace failure anytime you do new work | determining your desires should be an active process | know where you are running to
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before i went through the cathartic steps of working with my mentor john to come up with this process and refining my thoughts on this topic, i would occasionally go through some multiday bouts with gloom. i don’t want to say that i would get depressed because that would be too harsh of a descriptor.
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it’s not the same as giving up.

by bill reeb

while i’ve discussed “letting go” actions before, it is time to get a little better understanding of how to leverage them.

more: become your mind’s lead programmer | let go to get unstuck | investing in loss | you might be your biggest obstacle | what to stop may be more important than what to do | stop wishing your life away | don’t let inertia determine your direction | what does ‘getting stuck’ or ‘being stuck’ mean? | 3 ways to get ‘unstuck’
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at any point in time, when you realize you are dissatisfied with your level of success or happiness, once you have decided what to let go of that was the source of the negative emotions you are feeling, you will end up making at least one – if not two or all three – of these choices.
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what beliefs no longer serve you?

by bill reeb

if you have identified a desire, created a plan and are working your plan to your satisfaction, you are in what i refer to as the “try (work)-evaluate” loop that continues until you accomplish whatever you want to achieve. as long as you recognize the early warning signals and respond to them in a timely way, you will remain unstuck, continuing to work better and achieve more.

more: get better, work better, right now | stay in the present | how ‘take what’s given’ works in business | learn to work ‘better’ instead of ‘harder’ | be realistic regarding expectations | a clear direction provides you a sanity check
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however, most of us are not that fortunate. we start getting stuck and rather than respond to the early warning signals, we either ignore them, hoping they will go away, or try to power through them.
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you have an obligation to yourself. put it on your calendar if that’s what it takes.

by bill reeb

whatever you decide you want to improve or accomplish takes effort. relationships take effort. your job takes effort. having fun takes effort.

more: stay in the present | investing in loss | you might be your biggest obstacle | what to stop may be more important than what to do | stop wishing your life away | don’t let inertia determine your direction | what does ‘getting stuck’ or ‘being stuck’ mean?
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know that whatever is important to you could easily start to wither away if you don’t give it the right amount of attention.
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this goes for both your business and personal lives.

by bill reeb

have you ever caught yourself daydreaming and realized a significant amount of time has passed while you were on autopilot and you can’t remember any details in between?

more: investing in loss | constantly build on the basics | from martial arts to business: 5 steps of evolution | expect and embrace failure anytime you do new work | determining your desires should be an active process | know where you are running to
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in the beginning, when i was driving back and forth between austin and arlington when michaelle was earning her ph.d., i found that there were times when my mind would get immersed in a topic and when i came back to the present, i might have driven between 50 and 100 miles. i couldn’t remember passing through cities. i did make the drive often, so the road was familiar, but what a scary thought that i was driving a death machine at 70 miles an hour on a crowded freeway and had no recollection of my navigation for such a long distance.
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